Jim Rohn, renowned business man and motivational speaker, was quoted as saying “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Although you may not like the message, there is some cold hard truth to it.
The idea is based on the law of averages, and that you will rise or sink to the level of the people most influential in your everyday life. If you are concerned about your financial situation, look at those closest to you and see where they stand. Consider the average income or level of wealth of those five people and you’re likely to find that you are within that range yourself. It makes sense as it reflects the commonality of your thinking. The same goes for your physical health, the strength of your relationships, and success in other aspects of your life.
Who are the people who have the most influence in your life or that you spend the most time with? Are they holding you to a reputation of success or do they support you in settling for the status quo? While that may not seem like a significant factor in goal achieving, the opposite is true.
Think about it. If you are in a dead-end job and surrounded a day by people who are unmotivated and unhappy for 8 hours a day, you might settle into that same state – or you can choose to find another job and be in a positive culture. If your best friends are overweight and spend all their time watching sports on televeision
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Think about it. You spend time with people with whom you share common interests. If you have goals that are outside those common interests, you may have to give up time with your current pals. You may naturally spend less time with those people and more time with those involved in your new interest. For example, maybe you and your buddies like to hang out on Sundays watching football, drinking beer and eating wings. Sounds like a great time! However, you finally set a goal to get healthier and decide to start riding your mountain bike on the weekends. You join a ride group and ride on Sundays now instead of hanging out with your football friends. And since you are feeling better physically, you have less interest in partaking in the party food and refreshments. It doesn’t mean that you forget about your football pals, however, you may need to reprioritize them while you work on your fitness.
Take a look at your current results. Are there some areas for improvement? Do you need to be around different people, if even for a short time, to change your current thinking? If you are falling short, look at the five people you spend the most time with. What do their lives look like? What is their influence on you? Then take a stand for yourself and your opportunity to be great. Make changes and be firmly focused on what you want. Bring your five with you or be okay letting them go, if even for a time.
This may not be easy since some of your five people are probably family members, close friends, or even a spouse. Let them know you have this new goal and share how important it is that they support you in a positive way to achieve it. Find things you can do together that will change or expand your thinking. And while you are at it, remember that you are doing this for one thing, to Live Your Fullest Everyday.™